So just a break.
And generally I would like to introduce you to motivational theory that you've most likely come across
at some point in the past.
If not then you'll hopefully find this one quite interesting.
No.
Psychology give us a creates home or the realm of the psychology.
Create a home for a number of different schools of thought and I think I mention this back in Section
2 of the course.
So you've got a cognitive school of thought in the modern psychology is all about how the mind works
and how we process information and how our thoughts impact how we feel when I would.
If we make changes in a thought level we can experience change on an emotional level and so on so forth.
We've then got the behavioral school of thought which looks at human conditioning and how it is that
we are nurtured in life.
If you've ever heard of the nature nurture debate oh this is kind of the big theme in the behavioral
school of thought.
You know do we.
Our are our behaviors learned or are they intrinsic are we born with them and our habits and our attitudes.
And let's not get into that here.
Opening up a can of worms and we have this psychoanalytical school of thought we've got a biological
school of thought looking at the what the biological workings of the brain the psychoanalytical school
of thought is more to do with Sigmund Freud when he's looking at the conscious mind the subconscious
mind the unconscious mind defense mechanisms and I'm not going to start unpacking all the psychologies
for you here because what I want to introduce you to is the humanistic school of thought which is where
Abraham Moore's Law was was housed.
No this guy here.
What he focused on or he focused on finding answers to some of the questions in life such as What is
it that drives us as human beings pickers or human drivers are our motives our motives are our values
they are all one we are driven by those things that we value the most our values drive us they motivate
us they spring us to action and so on so forth.
All right.
And you ended up coming up with this hierarchy of needs.
So I want to explain this to you on a very very basic level.
And then I would like to build upon it with what I've come to learn understand over the years if that's
okay.
So what Abraham Maslow suggested was that we have five main levels of need.
Well this was his first model.
There was a second model but we're not going to go into that here in this course.
All right.
I think I'll actually build upon this model in the life coaching practitioner course which you can choose
10 rule 1 and work through if you do in fact enjoy and find this one useful model suggested was the
first most basic set of needs that we have as human beings are physiological by nature.
And what he meant by this was the needs that we have to sustain our life force i.e. food water clothing
shelter warmth.
If we don't have these things we will surely die.
All right.
You refer to these things as physiological needs.
No.
Us human beings we refer to as social animals with we've come through the various ages of life through
history and if you think back to you know where we've come from we've all come from being barbarians
and things like that.
Or maybe I'm just referring to us here in Scotland am who I tend to be a little bit more barbaric by
by nature.
But think back to the days of Hunter Hunter Killer where men men became men at the age of 13 by the
way.
Today at the age of 13 and boys become teenagers then they go through this stage of adolescence which
can last for like 20 30 sometimes 40 or 50 years.
Going back and maybe three or four five hundred years ago especially the pastoral times boys became
men and at the age of 13.
Right.
And in some parts of the world this is still very much the case.
Boys aren't allowed to remain adolescent and child like forever.
Why.
Because other members of their community society family are actually reliant on them on going and working
and producing to provide for their families.
But let's not go down that road.
What I'm saying here is that we're only ever going to be motivated by a set of needs as long as we perceive
ourselves as not having yet met the set of needs.
So say for example right now say you are hungry you are going to be pretty motivated by going and getting
something to eat.
But once you've had something to eat and you're you're sitting there with ya where they are barely feel
you're not gonna be motivated by eating anymore.
You're most likely going to be motivated by going and getting a little snooze somewhere warm aren't
you.
Some shelter and some warmth or you might want a nice cool glass of water to wash down your food with.
So basically our physiological needs just sustain us and keep us alive.
No this is and this is this is true for all of us we all have these but once we've had these needs met
we're no longer motivated by them we're automatically then motivated by something else.
Muscles suggested we then have a set of safety needs i.e. security in our body security in terms of
a stable roof over our head security in terms of perhaps some life savings maybe some insurances a stable
job we might just want to have a secure set of acquaintances in our life why so we can just start making
sense of our world.
All right.
I swear some people who never ever reach this place or feel insecure and grounded and safe within themselves.
Some people end up hoarding it was the idea shared earlier on that around it by one percent of the global
population.
Has them and has amassed master roundabout.
Ninety seven ninety eight percent of the world's wealth.
All right.
When does enough ever become enough for people well enough.
All they ever really tends to be enough.
Once we feel like we've had our needs met on a values level.
All right.
So I'm that I think up here in Scotland is a guy who I check their website around about a year and a
half ago and he calls himself the multi million dollar man.
No I don't know him from Adam.
All right.
Sorry not the multi-million dollar man.
The multi-billion dollar man.
No.
I wouldn't know what it would look like to have a billion dollars in the bank right.
For me it just seems like that's just something beyond me.
I don't know.
I might be proven wrong at some point in the future but fifty billion dollars.
Could you imagine how your life would be different if you had 50 billion dollars.
Well if you were to check out your you know your your bank account on your mobile phone up and you've
got sort of fifty dollars in there then you might go through a phase or a season where you're having
a little spending party you go a little bit why would you buy all the crazy stuff that you never thought
you would ever be able to get your hands on.
But at some point you're going to get used to it.
The novelty will eventually wear off.
And then what happens with money.
Money has this funny way of habit of getting a bit of a bit of a hold on us.
So if we have what we perceived to be very very little might be the case we end up working for money
to give us a little bit of security.
But then what happens once we've got it this dry for security is kind of becomes more of a drive for
sustainability where our motive is less about getting more and it's more about keeping what we have.
All right if that makes sense.
So safety is an interesting set of needs.
Some people never move beyond this in life.
A great example.
I was coaching a guy who operated and I think it was a business management.
I can remember the company he was working for and it reached the age of around about 49 years old and
he's had a great career and he'd made a whole lot of money and he'd built some fantastic businesses
and now he was training other people to manage and build businesses.
And this was great.
Then literally he had everything materialistic financial that he could hope for but he came to me and
he says Ken I fear that I may have wasted the best years of my life.
I'm almost 50 and I'm single I'm not married I have no children.
And I said mom it seems to me like you're going through some sort of a model crisis at the moment you're
preparing for a bit of a paradigm shift and also seems to me that your foul use your priorities are
changing.
Where for most of his life he'd been motivated by becoming safe and secure within himself he wanted
to feel financially sound and financially financially free if you like and he had this but then he realized
he had no one to share it with.
So it all became quite meaningless forum.
So now he was motivated by a love and belonging and Frenchmen family and sexual intimacy and all this
kind of stuff.
So at 50 years old for the first time of his life he actually entered the dating scene and lost a heritage
happily married and I think he definitely adopted some children which made all of his earlier years
of investment in the making money seem worthwhile.
But what I'm saying is is that it's not going to be sustainable for us to pursue love and belonging
and start a family.
If we don't have a basic set of physiological needs in place.
Another example I could give you here is myself and Karen have been talking about adopting for quite
a number of years and we initially started the adoption process and speak and know as we're filming
this video around about a year and a half ago maybe two years ago when we were still living and the
first home that we move then to have to get married.
No this was like a two bedroom home.
It wasn't a huge place.
Rather our bedroom there was quite a large bedroom and the spare room I had set up as an office.
All right.
And as a pair of self-employed individuals we actually needed the office to be able to keep on keep
on working.
So yes although we were ready for starting a family and all that kind of thing and we both wanted to
adopt.
It was just meaningful for both of us where we were practically in terms of family.
Family home and money.
We weren't there because the decision that we've both made was that if we're going to be parents we
both want to be available parents and by this what I mean is we don't just want to bring children into
the world and then have to be going out and doing a job and working for money whilst the children or
the child is being put into daycare centers or nursery or something like that.
We just wanted to be available parents.
So what I'm saying is there's kind of a natural progression here.
Can you see it.
We're very very rarely going to step into a new level in terms of Maslow's hierarchy needs until we've
already moved beyond the last or we have you know we perceive ourselves to have and move beyond the
last esteem and this sometimes be referred to as our egocentric set off needs.
All right.
So let's just say no that we we have a nice little nest egg behind this.
We've got the roof over our heads.
We know that putting food on the table isn't going to be a problem we've got a good center a good social
circle we've got some good friends who've got a family going on two point four children were happily
married and we've got all this oh all as well.
Well Maazel suggested is that people then become driven by something else.
They become driven by a more egotistical set needs to build than accomplish and make a name for oneself
and conquer an advance and be seen and be noticed in the world.
And I'm not saying that this is the natural order of things.
This is just a theory.
It's just an idea that will unpack and explore from a slightly different perspective in the videos that
follow.
But I do understand where he was coming from here.
It's kind of like the natural progression Ahmad's warmth and muscles.
What I found is most interest an idea to be was was was when people kind of get sick and tired of pursuing
it's kind of like more more more.
I mean all these levels here and it's all about more more more isn't about what I can get what I can
get my hands on more more more I need more money I need more stuff I need more people I want more respect
I want more I want to achieve more I want to accomplish more.
It's all about kind of us.
Once I was able to relate to was the story that I shared with you earlier on I remember that guy who
felt like it reached a glass ceiling in life and what Mostel reckons is at the top of this hierarchy.
And once we've exhausted all other options in life once we've done everything that we feel we need to
do once we've got our hands on all the stuff that we fundamentally want to get we then self actualize
and we start asking some slightly more meaningful questions such as well who am I really.
You know if all this stuff was to be taken away who's left for what purpose am I doing all this stuff.
What really drives me.
Who am I.
Why am I here.
What is the meaning of life.
What is the purpose of life and what do I believe in.
What legacy do I want to leave behind.
And when we start a self actualizing life kind of becomes less about us and more about the impact that
we can make in other people no I'm pretty pretty much going to wrap this lesson up here and just invite
you to take a couple of moments just to reflect upon what it is that's currently driving you and the
moments all right Are you a screw up and around the bottom the bottom of the food chain just trying
to drastically make a little bit money clutching at straws trying to keep food on the table and all
this kind of stuff.
Or are you more veiled by a little bit of security a little bit of employment maybe you just want to
get a job and might even be the case you've already committed to a dead end job that you absolutely
hate.
Well if so then this here is going to kind of explain that because after our physiological needs were
motivated by a little bit of security and sometimes some people will commit an entire life to doing
a job that they hate just so they can have this set off needs met.
And when we do have this set of needs met even if it is kind of quite minimalistic Emma still says it's
free to be able to do the family thing the love thing the sex thing the intimacy thing the social thing
and it may just be that this is weird out right now.
It may be the case you taken this course for the purpose of becoming a more valuable father or mother
or friend or sister or brother or boss or manager or leader or whatever.
Or it might be the case that you're taking this course right now because you just want to make a name
for yourself and an egocentric kind of way or it might be the case you take in this course because you've
reached the stage of life where you've come to the realization that the only thing that's really going
to make your life make sense is when you start becoming the kind of person for other people that you've
never had for you.
But who knows.
I'll let you decide.
Why not take a few minutes to think about it.
Between now and the next clip.